• Support
  • Advertise
  • Locations
  • Contact Us
Sunday, May 28, 2023
No Result
View All Result
NEWSLETTERS
The Capistrano Dispatch
  • Calendar
    • Event Calendar
    • Submit an Event
  • Sections
    • Eye On SJC
    • Soapbox
      • Submit A Letter
    • Getting Out
    • SJC Living
    • Sports & Outdoors
    • Dana Point Times
    • San Clemente Times
  • Digital Edition
  • Best of SJC
  • Legals & Classifieds
    • Locals Only Business Directory
    • Classifieds
    • Submit A Classified
    • Obituaries
    • Submit an Obituary
    • Announcements
    • Submit An Announcement
  • Special Publications
    • A New You
    • Aging Well
    • Crib to College
    • Festival of Whales Event Guide
    • Go See Do
    • Good Eats
    • Holiday Happenings & Gift Guide
    • Inside/Outside Home
    • South County Real Estate Guide
    • Summer Camp Guide
    • Swallows Day Parade & Mercado Event Guide
    • The Green Issue
  • SJC Guide
  • Real Estate
    • South County Real Estate Guide
    • Real Estate – Who’s Who
  • Calendar
    • Event Calendar
    • Submit an Event
  • Sections
    • Eye On SJC
    • Soapbox
      • Submit A Letter
    • Getting Out
    • SJC Living
    • Sports & Outdoors
    • Dana Point Times
    • San Clemente Times
  • Digital Edition
  • Best of SJC
  • Legals & Classifieds
    • Locals Only Business Directory
    • Classifieds
    • Submit A Classified
    • Obituaries
    • Submit an Obituary
    • Announcements
    • Submit An Announcement
  • Special Publications
    • A New You
    • Aging Well
    • Crib to College
    • Festival of Whales Event Guide
    • Go See Do
    • Good Eats
    • Holiday Happenings & Gift Guide
    • Inside/Outside Home
    • South County Real Estate Guide
    • Summer Camp Guide
    • Swallows Day Parade & Mercado Event Guide
    • The Green Issue
  • SJC Guide
  • Real Estate
    • South County Real Estate Guide
    • Real Estate – Who’s Who
No Result
View All Result
The Capistrano Dispatch
No Result
View All Result

On Life and Love After 50: Where Are the Single Men?

by Capo Dispatch
September 26, 2021 2:00AM
in LIVING, SJC Living
On Life and Love after 50: Seniors Should Reveal Their True Age on Dating Profiles

On Life and Love After 50 by Tom Blake

0
SHARES
0
VIEWS
Share on FacebookShare on Twitter

By Tom Blake

A question I often hear from senior single women is, “Where can I meet a man?”

For example, Marci, 70, emailed, “I live in Orange County. I am retired and would love to meet an available, honest, adventurous man. Where is he?

“I am fun, smart, spiritual, good-looking and healthy. I love my family, friends, animals and enjoy my life. I am so ready to meet him.”

My response to Marci: “You sound terrific—retired, healthy, attractive, loving, enthusiastic, confident and positive. Wow, great credentials; you’d be a wonderful partner!”

I wish I had an easy answer to her question. Finding a quality mate is difficult for senior women. At age 70, the ratio of single women to single men is approximately 3.5-to-1. And yet, meeting a mate at her age is possible.

My normal advice would be: “Get off the couch and out of the house and involved in activities you enjoy.”

However, for nearly two years, seniors have been handcuffed by COVID-19. Socializing and meeting new people has been challenging. Earlier this year, the situation appeared to be improving, but restrictions are reappearing.

Here are eight suggestions I have on how to meet a mate:

  1. To facilitate exchanging contact information with new people, hand out preprinted name cards that reveal only your first name and email address. Don’t reveal your last name or phone number (not yet at least). Handwritten cards prepared by you are fine. Carry them with you. Have them ready so that a pen isn’t needed.
  2. Seize every opportunity to meet new people without endangering your health. Attend events and gatherings where people are vaccinated and located outdoors in open air. For example, attend Tai chi and/or yoga classes in a park. Introduce yourself to strangers, hand out your name cards, while keeping your distance.
  3. Don’t focus solely on meeting men. Include women as well, single or married. Make meeting new friends a top priority. Social interaction is one of the most important activities seniors can pursue.
  4. Be sure you are getting physical and mental exercise. It helps your health and makes you a more interesting person. Adopt a project; write a blog; write a book; volunteer (safely).
  5. Internet date, which will improve your chances of meeting a mate. You need access to a computer. If you don’t have this capability, ask a friend for help. The internet is an important senior dating tool, enabling people to search for a mate beyond one’s neighborhood, city limits, and state lines. There are thousands of potential mates out there. However, beware. I estimate that 25% of the people on senior dating sites are scammers, trying to steal seniors’ identity and money. The scammers are experts of deceit, preying on vulnerable seniors, especially widows. Don’t venture online on your own. Have friends help you. Write me for advice. Trust your instincts. Never send money to a stranger. Don’t be naïve or gullible because you are lonely. Be careful when meeting a stranger in person.
  6. Meetup.com—again, you will need a computer, but only to locate groups within your area that provide endless activities. Meetup.com is an online site where you can join groups to learn—for example—to dance, speak a new language, exercise, cook Italian (or any country’s) food. Learn how to write; publish a book.
  7. Volunteer. There are a multitude of opportunities in your community. Pick a place to help that makes you feel good and do it. Just keep in mind the COVID precautions.
  8. Sign up for my weekly free email newsletter by visiting the home page of my findingloveafter50.com website or email me. You will learn what others are doing to meet mates.  

Cast your net far and wide. Anything can happen. Never give up hope. Continue to enjoy life, with or without a man.

Tom Blake is a retired Dana Point business owner and resident who has authored books on middle-aged dating. See his website at findingloveafter50.com. To comment: tompblake@gmail.com.

Share this:

  • Share
  • Print
  • Email
  • Facebook
  • Twitter
  • LinkedIn
  • Reddit
  • Tumblr
Tags: CaliforniaDatingDating Advicedating after 50On Life and Love After 50San Juan CapistranoTom Blake
ShareTweetPin

Capo Dispatch

Related Posts

Otra Mas Celebrates 10th Anniversary with San Juan Community

Otra Mas Celebrates 10th Anniversary with San Juan Community

May 26, 2023 - Updated on May 27, 2023
City Considers Adding Enhancements to Serra Park

City Considers Adding Enhancements to Serra Park

May 26, 2023
On Life and Love After 50: A Night to Remember in Dana Point Harbor

On Life and Love After 50: 2 Senior Men Discuss the Challenges of Senior Dating

May 26, 2023
Adoptable Pet of the Week: Connor

Adoptable Pet of the Week: Connor

May 26, 2023
Next Post
At the Movies: ‘The Card Counter’ Surprises Movie Fans in Early Autumn

At the Movies: 'The Card Counter' Surprises Movie Fans in Early Autumn

Discussion about this post

No Result
View All Result

The Dispatch Daily
Get important news and updates delivered straight to your inbox. Sign up here.

Subscriptions
Don’t get The Dispatch delivered to your home? Subscribe today.

Advertising
Get new customers and drive traffic to your business. Advertise with us.

Support Local Journalism
For less than the cost of a couple of cups of coffee a month, become an “Insider” member and continue to get “Local News You Can Use” from the only independently owned, dedicated local news organization in South Orange County.

Contribute today.

Picket Fence Media is a proud member of the SoCal Media Network.

  • Current Issue
  • Contact Us
  • San Clemente Times
  • Dana Point Times
  • About Us

© 2023 Picket Fence Media

No Result
View All Result
  • Calendar
    • Event Calendar
    • Submit an Event
  • Sections
    • Eye On SJC
    • Soapbox
      • Submit A Letter
    • Getting Out
    • SJC Living
    • Sports & Outdoors
    • Dana Point Times
    • San Clemente Times
  • Digital Edition
  • Best of SJC
  • Legals & Classifieds
    • Locals Only Business Directory
    • Classifieds
    • Submit A Classified
    • Obituaries
    • Submit an Obituary
    • Announcements
    • Submit An Announcement
  • Special Publications
    • A New You
    • Aging Well
    • Crib to College
    • Festival of Whales Event Guide
    • Go See Do
    • Good Eats
    • Holiday Happenings & Gift Guide
    • Inside/Outside Home
    • South County Real Estate Guide
    • Summer Camp Guide
    • Swallows Day Parade & Mercado Event Guide
    • The Green Issue
  • SJC Guide
  • Real Estate
    • South County Real Estate Guide
    • Real Estate – Who’s Who

© 2023 Picket Fence Media

loading Cancel
Post was not sent - check your email addresses!
Email check failed, please try again
Sorry, your blog cannot share posts by email.